There's a familiar stigma that goes along with a prenuptial agreement, which is that it grants one member of a couple — typically the wealthier partner — protection for their money while disenfranchising the other, less wealthy partner.
The truth, however, is that while a prenup may seem contrary to the very notion of true love, more couples are opting for the contract and are doing so in a mutually agreed upon way. And good prenups do not have to be one-sided.
According to a survey of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), 51 percent of the attorneys who responded cited an increase in the number of Millennials requesting prenuptial agreements.
In addition, 62 percent said they have seen an increase over the past three years in the total number of clients who are seeking prenups.
According to the survey, the three items most commonly covered by the marriage contracts are:
Rather than viewing a prenuptial agreement as divisive, think of it as a key tool in getting you and your partner to speak openly about wealth, debt and savings. It can also help each person get a better understanding of their partner's distinct approach to finances. And it's useful in allowing you to choose how to protect specific assets and ensure financial stability in the event of a divorce.
"Talking about this kind of contract can be a fantastic way to start an open, honest and healthy dialogue about money and financial goals," said Jason Niell, national trust administration manager for City National Bank Trust and Estates.
It gives couples a chance to see what assets they will collectively own as well as what debts they have. If there are any financial values they're not aligned on, it gives them an opportunity to find a middle ground before tying the knot.
Rather than being a negative way to start your life together, a prenup can help you and your partner form a contract that allows both of you to feel confident and secure from the beginning.
Millennials are marrying later than previous generations, with years to build up their own assets and debt.
Younger couples are opting to protect the wealth they built or inherited prior to getting married — known as separate property — while sharing other assets that they will accumulate during the marriage.
Niell underscored that a prenup agreement can also protect less tangible, but equally important assets aside from money and property.
“A lot of people think of someone's wealth as their income or their invested assets, but as we know, it's much more than that, and that's where an expert comes in. They can help you protect things like a family business, or an interest in another business, or even intellectual property," said Niell. “People are inheriting wealth through different means and different avenues and it's vital to evaluate which of them you'd like to protect in the event of divorce."
Niell also noted that a prenup is not just about protecting people's assets. It can also be a useful way to shield a prospective spouse from winding up responsible for something undesirable, such as debt.
“A prenuptial contract can ensure that the spouse who didn't incur the debt before the marriage isn't responsible for taking it on in the event of a divorce," he said.
Patricia D. Hausknost, senior wealth planner for City National Bank, added that there may be sentimental assets that one partner may want to protect.
“You can use the contract to protect anything of value to you," said Hausknost. “A family heirloom like art, a summer home or your grandmother's wedding ring are all things people can protect in a prenup."
Niell noted that rather than merely protecting the assets of the wealthier member of the couple, a prenup can also provide peace of mind to the less wealthy partner, due to the knowledge that they will have a financial cushion to help them maintain their standard of living if the marriage ends.
“Sometimes prenuptial contracts can actually be a healthy thing for the spouse who is not bringing a lot financially into the relationship. It's sort of a safety net in a financially unbalanced situation to know that if things don't work out, they can sustain their lifestyle," Niell said.
Having a prenup in place before things go wrong ensures that it's the couple, not the court, who decides what happens in the event of a divorce.
It's also important to note that what can go into a prenup varies by state, which is why it's essential to rely on an expert who's familiar with state law to draw up any agreement.
“Contracts like prenups are really in place for when things go wrong. Nobody likes to believe something will go wrong - but it can. And a prenuptial agreement can help things go more smoothly for both parties if there's a divorce," said Hausknost.
However, one issue that can potentially nullify a prenup is if partners co-mingle their assets contrary to agreement reached in the prenup, making it very difficult for the courts to distinguish with precision between each partner's individual holdings.
“If you're going to have a prenup, you have to live up to that agreement. If in the document you say something along the lines of 'What's mine is mine and what's yours is yours,' then you must continue to keep things separate during the marriage." said Hausknost. "But if you don't keep assets separate and start commingling things, then there's a question about whether you're really living up to the terms of the prenup that you've created. If you don't live up to the contract, then there's potentially a cause to dispute the prenup."
Although no couple wants to think about divorce, Hausknost noted that it's better to plan now when you're happy and focused on the best interests of your partner, rather than at the time of a divorce, if one should occur, when tensions are running high.
Identifying which assets and debts should be part of a prenup, and drafting an agreement that both partners are comfortable with, requires professional guidance. City National's wealth planners can work with you throughout the process. To learn more, contact us.
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